1) She's read something in this genre all of once before, a book I recommended to her in high school. Neither of us remembers what the book was.
2) She is more interested in fantasy than in SF. (I gave her examples of themes of each.)
3) And sadly, she's already read The Time-Traveler's Wife (although the good news is, she enjoyed it!).
So now I'm looking for something in a literary fantasy with good prose. Susannah Clarke is pulling ahead, I'll admit. I'm also wondering what she would think of Bujold's Chalion series, and what deLint book I would recommend to her if I had to tear my hair out and choose just one. If I was going to suggest a Sharon Shinn book to her I imagine it would be The Shape-Changer's Wife. If I suggested McKillip it would be Forgotten Beasts of Eld.
Then, there is also the possibility of just suggesting she read the anthology A Tangled Web, which has Sharon Shinn, Patricia McKillip, Lynn Kurland,
Does this inspire any further suggestions, faithful readers?
What I would like to do is narrow the list down to two or three books, and then describe them to her and see which one catches her interest.